9.30.2005

Equal Rights?

"When women decided they wanted to be equal to men, they lost their superiority over men." - Dennis Prager


One of my greatest frustrations with topic of women's rights is the confusion between the concept of equal value and sameness. The fact that men and women are equal in the sight of God and should be in the sight of all men and women does not mean that they need to act the same way and do the same things. I don't place a greater or lesser value on doctor who is a heart specialist and one who is a brain surgeon. I'm thankful that they each have their function; each of critical importance.

Women's activists assume that in order to be equal, we need to hold all the same positions and titles as do men. I think it's pretty clear that there are the obvious physiological and even emotional differences between men and women. There is a reason for the myriad of books on the differences in communication styles of each. There's a reason for the Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus craze. I haven't read the book. But it serves as a good example of the communication differences. One of my favorite newer books is He's Not That Into You. Yet another example of relational differences.

It's a sad thing that we don't appreciate the God-given differences we have. Everyone misses out. Men get mixed signals about how to treat women...and whether to be strong or sensitive with women. Women grow dissatisfied with their own identity and too often unfulfilled in the endeavor to do it all.

We will revisit this topic as the 2008 election approaches. However, for now, I wanted to highlight what I believe is an example of the logical and tragic conclusion to the confusion between having equal value and being the same. Muslim radicals are twisted enough for having young boys kill themselves for "the cause." Women get to be just as brainwashed.

God help us.

p.s. Thank you to Poison Pero for the Prager quote.

14 Comments:

At 9/30/2005 04:31:00 AM, Blogger Poison Pero said...

Your welcome, Lores.......It is my favorite.
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What's really sad is we have women who want to be like men, and men who want to be like little boys......And then we also have little girls who want to be like women, and little boys who want to be like the bizzare men they see.

That's a convoluted statement, but if we look at it without blinders it is absolutely true.

Of all the problems in this country, this is the one that is doing the most damage........Because our children are being raised in a virtual insane assylum.

We need women to be women and men to be men.........And it would be nice if we'd allow children to be children for as long as they can, as well.

 
At 9/30/2005 04:49:00 AM, Blogger Jaymeister said...

Lores, I am in agreement with your basic sentiment. There are some "feminists" who are way over the top in the way they want to redefine gender roles. I especially agree with Pero about letting children be children.

The only thing that I (mildly) take issue with is something I mentioned in a previous post, which is that women (and men) should be free to define their own roles for themselves, because any outside influence, whether feminists or traditionalists, will lead to pressure and confusion. It would be nice if we could all adhere to "To thine own self be true." We'd be a lot happier.

(BTW, the Prager doesn't quite jibe with your point because he talks about "equal"-ity being the problem rather than sameness.)

 
At 9/30/2005 04:56:00 AM, Blogger Lores Rizkalla said...

jaymeister: i agree with the idea "to thine own self be true." unfortunately, we have very real factors that influence the expectations and values we place on various aspects of identity, esp in a post-feminist world. confusion reigns.

about the prager quote, i realize it makes a different point. honestly, i didn't initially plan to go down the equality-sameness route. but, i love the quote anyway :)

 
At 9/30/2005 04:57:00 AM, Blogger Lores Rizkalla said...

pero: i couldn't agree with you more!

 
At 9/30/2005 03:11:00 PM, Anonymous KO said...

Jyameister- I too agree with the "To thine own self be true" idea. I think the problem we have breaks down where people do not know who their true selves are. So much of that is supposed to be defined in a healthy and accurate way in the context of the family- fathers and mothers helping to shape and mold the "bent" in each child, helping to give guidance, wisdom and definition where necessary and needed. An author, John Eldredge writes that in each little boy is the question, "Do I have what it takes?" and in each little girl "Am I lovely?" To the degree that those questions are answered for children properly or improperly or not at all shows up in much of the gender role confusion we have today.

 
At 9/30/2005 03:39:00 PM, Blogger The WordSmith from Nantucket said...

Lores,

You might be interested in this book. I think I heard the author on the Dennis Prager Show:

Why Men Earn More

Not quite on-topic, but I think it would interest you.

 
At 9/30/2005 04:22:00 PM, Blogger Lores Rizkalla said...

wordsmith: i think i heard that interview. a few months back, right? thanks so much. i am very interested. i'll check it out!

 
At 9/30/2005 06:45:00 PM, Blogger Jamie Dawn said...

I guess in a sick way, the terrorists could claim that they are giving their women "equal opportunity" to kill.
How very terrible.

 
At 10/01/2005 03:17:00 AM, Blogger Goat said...

One of the many reasons I have chosen the life of a lobo Goat,you will make some young man a grateful recipient of female knowledge one day. You are a good girl and that is meant in the best of terms!

 
At 10/01/2005 03:25:00 AM, Blogger Goat said...

We refer to our ladies as our "better half" for a reason as they usually are,LOL! Gender roles are historic why distort them for some odd political reason? Normal people acknowledge the fact.

 
At 10/01/2005 04:19:00 AM, Blogger Mark said...

Well, I'm not sure I fully understand the topic, but when I was a kid, I hit a girl once and my mom saw it.

I don't remember what she told me, but I know one thing. I never hit a woman again except in my sleep, but that's another story.

My point is my mother taught me to respect women and I do, but I have learned that everyone deserves respect for something, I always look for something to respect in a person no matter how perfectly obnoxious they are.

Maybe that's what you are taliking about. Respect for all people regardless of their gender?

 
At 10/01/2005 06:04:00 AM, Anonymous michelerayner said...

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At 10/01/2005 03:28:00 PM, Blogger Lores Rizkalla said...

mark, i apologize for not being more clear.

here's my point, the story you shared...yes, we need to respect everyone. but, my guess is that your mother didn't have such a strong reaction to your hitting a guy--at least not in the same way. sure, everyone is to be respected. but, the differences between men and women are not simply biological. as such, there are ways to treat men so as to honor their manhood and ways to treat women so as to appreciate their femininity.

 
At 10/03/2005 03:53:00 PM, Blogger Jaymeister said...

I wanna get married
Yes, I need a spouse
I want a nice Leave it to Beaverish
Golden retriever and a little white house
I wanna get married
I need to cook meals
I wanna pack cute little lunches
For my Brady bunches
Then read Danielle Steele
I wanna escape
This rat race I've created
I'm feelin' enervated
I don't care if I make it
I just want to bake a sugar cake for you
To take to work in the morn
And I'll stay home cleaning the dishes
And keeping your wishes all warm
I wanna get married
That's why I was born

I wanna partake in bake sales for the classroom
I wanna hear the sweet tune
Of Sally's little vroom-vroom
As she zooms around my broom
As I exhume the gloom
Of my shallow life
I wanna be simple and honest and dimpled
'cause I am your wife
I will never tarry
I'm not even torn
I wanna get married
That's why I was born

- Nellie McKay

 

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